Did I Just Overshare? Who Cares...
|This picture overshares the state of my worktable. Not sorry.|
I do it because I don't understand where the lines are or why truth shouldn't be shared. I always thought I was reporting, and that honesty is supposed to be, well, honorable. How did this get difficult?
I think oversharing should be normalized. Maybe we need rules.
- If someone overshares with you, there is no action required on your part. Acknowledge that you heard them.
- If you don't understand how the overshare relates to the conversation being had, ASK.
- Every conversation leaves several people holding things that desperately need to be said, and the things need to be included in a conversation for context. There are thousands of millions of stories out there waiting to be told. You can't know whether they're important (to you.)
- Get used to accepting things that don't fit your narrative. Leave a little room in the conversation for someone else's story.
I know that I feel true fury when someone asks me a question, I spend a minute or so thinking out a verified, honest and thorough answer and then they stop me and say, "Thanks, that's all I needed to know." And walk away. How do THEY know that is all they needed to know? Perhaps I needed to change my answer based on their answer to my answer. Perhaps that COULD have been a two-way conversation and I could have learned something from them? Perhaps, not. Maybe I would change my answer? Anyway, it REALLY pisses me off.ReplyDelete
Fellow oversharer 🙋🏻♀️ReplyDelete