Boundary vs. Interface - Which do you need?
We need to stop using the word boundary when defining human relationships. Maybe not stop, but our society needs a bigger vocabulary. Once boundaries are established, we need means of getting across them safely. Your village-of-one scenario is only in your mind. A cell touches its environment. Your home has doors. Minds meet. We use computers to type our messages into the twitterverse, and we anticipate response. If you just said, "I don't care if anyone responds," you anticipated. And it isn't what you mean - you do care, but you're preparing yourself for the possibility that you threw a rock over your boundary and nobody threw it back. Maybe you were hoping they'd throw a rock at you, because that response feels normal. Our society is learning to defy systemic bullying. We are, in singular form, feeling the authenticity of our true selves. We're deprogramming the negative self-talk that tried to protect ...